How many years of your life are you going to waste hating and criticizing your body? Or comparing yourself to others?
I have asked myself this for years and it’s been cycling through my mind a lot lately. I know what most of you are thinking right now, ” Why would she be criticizing her body?” Trust me, I have my own struggles just like everyone else. The question is, do you want to spend the rest of your life constantly worrying about how your body looks, how your hair looks, how your make up looks, how much you ate/didn’t eat, if you skipped the gym too many days in a row, or worrying about looking perfect in that Bikini before your vacation. Do you really want to live like that? I’m almost positive most you would say no, and I agree. I don’t want to live like that either.
I decided awhile back that I’m DONE having the same worrying thoughts racing through my mind on a daily.
Here are some typical thoughts that most of us girls have on any given day. Do any of them sound familiar to you?
What am I going to eat today?
I need to eat something healthy and not fattening.
Summer is almost here, I need to look good in my swim suit.
My legs need to be more toned.
I really want a piece of candy, and that cake looks good. Should I eat it? Ok, I’ll eat it and then workout extra hard tonight.
Crap, I ran out of time and can’t make it to the gym. 😑
Ugh, I ate super crappy today and now I’m bloated and probably gained 5lbs.
(Although that is highly unlikely 🤔)
I wish my hair was longer
OMG I have a hug zit on my face. I’m so ugly right now.
I wish I had better skin
I want to look like her..
I need to figure out what I am wearing tomorrow, and to my party this weekend, and for my vacation in three months.
Let me tell you something, three months from now doesn’t matter today. Today is what matters. Does what we wear or what we look like on our vacation really matter? Is that the best part of the vacation. Is that what you are going to remember most about your trip?
Oh my gosh, just writing about this is exhausting. So here’s what you do, I promise it’s easy. Just stop, in this very moment tell yourself you are done living like this & just stop. Love yourself, enjoy your life, and spend your energy and thoughts on other things that will actually benefit your life.
It is such a waste of energy worrying about our looks everyday all day. You might be able to win the beauty challenge but at some point you will lose because eventually we all will age, and then what will you do? So why waste your earlier years overly stressing about something so small compared to all the great things in this world. Spend your days loving who you are instead of constantly trying to change it.
Also, we need to accept and not judge others. Stop judging people on just looks and focus on who they are as a person instead. We are all different, some are beautiful, some are physically impaired, some are too skinny, some are transgender, some are plus size, some are in shape, and some are out of shape. Do any of those things make someone who they are? Shouldn’t we get to know someones inner self before we decide if we like them. Looks will only get us so far.
So decide today that you will change your bad self talk. Today you will start loving yourself for everything you are. Once you make the choice to love life, your body, and who you are inside, your life will change dramatically.
These past few months I have been working on this more than ever. The older I am getting the more I realize that some things are just wasted energy.
Thanks for taking the time to read, I actually wrote this a few years ago and I must say, I am so much better with my self talk these days. I have defeated the negative talk 90% of the time. I still have my moments. I think we all do but I truly love who I am. We all need to learn to do this. Choose today to quit being so hard on yourself. It’s ok to want to eat healthy, be at a healthy weight, have good skin, and look good in the clothes we buy. Just don’t forget that there is more to life than just look. Never forget that part. Now go enjoy your new life. ♥️