Where were all the good men………….? Would I ever find a good connection? Was I ever going to find my person…?
When I decided to give dating a try again. I wasn’t sure where I should start. I didn’t go out to the bars a lot. I didn’t want to date people that I worked with. I went to the gym and yoga classes, so that could have been an option. But not one to rely on. A lot of the times I am too focused on my workout to pay attention to everyone. Plus, being a girl in the gym is like walking meat. Sad but true.
I decided to jump into “Online Dating,” I was surprised at how easy it was to set up a profile on multiple platforms such as, Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. Those are the three main ones I used. As soon as I submitted my profile, I instantly had matches. At least that’s how it seemed. Swipe, Swipe, Swipe, that’s what I did for hours some days. If you ever start feeling sorry for yourself because you feel like you are the only single person in the world, you are DEAD WRONG haha. Just jump online and you will see that there really are plenty of “fish in the sea.” You can swipe for days, it’s insane.
I know some people hate online dating for different reasons. But I haven’t had any bad experiences. Yes I have met a couple odd people. Yes I have met people who weren’t my type in person. Yes I have met people who would write me for hours then never reply again aka “Ghosting”. Yes I have met guys who just wanted sex. Yes I have met super sweet men who liked me a lot but I just wasn’t feeling it, and had to let them down easy (that is never fun).
The fact is, online dating is just like any other type dating. You never really know someone till you start to get to know them, I dated a guy for 4 years and never actually knew him, now that’s crazy. You really just have to be smart about it. You have to be picky. You have to stalk their social media (so yes ask them if you can add them, you can always block them later.) Don’t swipe right on the person who is basically naked, unless sex is what you are wanting, in that case go for it. We all have different needs and wants, to each their own.
I have deleted the apps and swore I would never be on them again because reality is, any type of dating can just get overwhelming and frustrating at times. You get sick of telling your story over and over. Then having it go no where. But lets face it, I wanted to find love, so months later I would sign back up. It’s a cycle, be prepared for it. It’s completely normal. I had to learn how to not overthink dating so much. It’s much more enjoyable if you can learn how to just go with the flow. Take it day by day just like you should be doing with basically everything in life anyways.
Right now I am currently taking things slow with a guy who feels like home. We met on Bumble. Talked for a little then he finally asked me out on a date. We went and had sushi from one of his favorite spots. I instantly felt comfortable with him. When we hug I can feel love lighting up our bodies and when I look into his eyes I can see love looking back into my soul. Only time will tell where we will end up. But till then I am enjoying the experience and taking it day by day. Life is too short to be constantly worrying about the future, ruining the day you are in. At least that’s what I have to remind myself of when I start to get ahead of my time.
To wrap this three part post up, I just want to say, never give up. Never give up on yourself. Never give up on love. You may have been knocked down but you are strong. You have made it this far, so you can make it even farther. I don’t know if you realize this, but you hold all the power. This is your life. This is your time. This is your happiness. Don’t waste it for one second. Fight for what you want. Fight for those happy days. I promise you that you will have more happy than sad days in your life if you just choose to stand up for yourself and take action.
Those of you who have read all three parts, I hope I have helped you out in some way or another by sharing one of my many life stories with you.
One last side note , if you are curious about the picture I chose and what it has to do with this post, it is an inside meaning between me and the guy who makes me feel like I’m home. which has everything to do with this post.
Never Give Up.
Thanks for reading.